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am twelve twenty K.P.H.
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a show for about and by seniors giving information to enhance one's quality of life
and speaking of enhanced and lungs quality of life who hasn't experienced stress
I'm sure everyone out here in our listening audience has experienced it at some
time or another and our guest this morning Alex Urbina he's
a life leadership coach and he also works with action family zone he's going to be
talking about stress welcome Alex it's good it's good to have you back again always
a pleasure and what does the word stress mean to you stress means to me that there
is something that we are resisting in our life and it's something that we're trying
to control and I believe that when you get clear that you're not in control of
anything that's outside of you. Other people's opinions other people's thoughts
other people's actions the way the world shows up that's outside of me that I have
no control of it and so once I get really crystal clear about there are things that
which I can control that's all within me and that's all I can control and that
frees me up to allow myself to be at peace to be at ease with life events or
certain situations that show up in my life and when I get crystal clear about that
I'm not resisting things that are out of my control or the things that that frees
if this frees me up and so I I believe that the stress comes on when there are
certain things I want to be in control of. Very interesting. Hi Jane how are you
how are you I'm doing OK thanks for having me good words but words that kind of
make you think how did you get to the point where you can look at this in
a philosophical way and remove the stress in your life to make better decisions
once I got clear about the distinction of control versus no control once it really
clicked for me and it took some practice but as I started to employment in my own
life and getting really crystal clear about. You know control versus no control it
just started I started noticing that I was showing up in life more at ease more at
peace more surrendered and I got to
a point where one day I woke up and realize you know what I'm not stressed out
about any situation that shows up in my daily life so that the stress starts to
eliminate a little bit more at
a time every day more and more as I become more conscious of the way I'm living my
life but the control and non control was
a personal sense and feeling though as opposed to people from the outside having
control or not having control of your life well I'm only in control of my own life
and control my own thoughts I mean control my own choices and I think the main key
is that I'm in charge and in control of my perceptions which was huge Once I
realize that I can perceive certain situations however I want it changed my reality
and want to change my reality and I was able to see each new event as
a blessing rather than something that I don't want instantly I was transformed that
isn't an attitude and that thought process of life as opposed to just control and I
control I mean didn't you once you realize whether you had control or not you said
OK I'm shifty my attitude and how I'm going to think about this and then change how
I approach things it was more I look at it more through. My perception my viewpoint
it's how I perceive the way life shows up to me how I perceive the way people speak
to me how I perceive the choices that are now available for me to choose from so
it's more of
a perspective shift rather than thinking that that you can control the things that
are outside of your own choosing Wow bug your philosophy has
is in front of you now and with that change in your life you've
a large yourself to move forward to help other people that's right I'm just crystal
clear now about the things that I can control the things that I can't so when
people look over at me more people are having
a hard time or stressed out about certain things in their life and they look over
at me and they're like aren't you upset aren't you doesn't that bother you and I
look at honestly quite quite frankly no because I realize that I'm not in control
of that and that frees me up to be able to to influence at that point
a different outcome I have to have the first resist that which I can't control to
free me up to put me in a space that which now I can use my abilities to influence
a different outcome but when we come back why don't we talk about Alex how you're
teaching others about that control and that perception because you found that so
others should be able to find that absolutely will be back in just
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When you have station AM twelve twenty page TS and we're speaking with Alex Arena
who is
a life leadership coach and our topic this morning is stress and. Believe
me I've experienced
a great deal of stress and I think in the last four or five months but I'm I begun
to learn how to put it away. How to remove
myself from it because I realized getting up tight and you know
and I literally had to clench my fists sometimes that's how uptight I've been but
how do we move yourself how do you how does is this physically or mentally I mean I
mean what I'm saying is great that you have been able to do that but it's so hard
for most people to get to a point where they can take
a step back that I have this problem I'm going to deal with that now is move
forward keep taking steps forward how do you do that well I've I've known for
a long time that stress can kill you at any it really can and if you let yourself I
can tell when I'm stressed because I feel tight inside just like I can tell when my
blood pressure is high I have the same feeling inside and it's either opes it's
either my blood pressure which does go up when I'm stressed or it's stress and what
I've learned to do is sit down and take
a deep breath and think about what is stressing me what's happening
around me that is causing me to stress me. Because it's not necessarily
anybody else it's me that that whatever it is in me
is is I'm trying to pull somebody else in or something else in and that's not what
it is in all means and let's talk about that that stress and the impact that it has
honest physically and mentally because once you start feeling this the stress you
said your blood pressure goes up but mentally you also don't sleep you start making
mental errors you're not judging things correctly the logic that you may have once
had before out the door I mean how do you know this is
a harder subject to tackle because our seniors every day are facing should dress I
mean we have the situation going on at the Senior Center right now with the with
the food the meals are home delivered meals and serving meals there and some of
them are threatened because that one meal
a day is all they get from it and they're not knowing what are they going to do
tomorrow and you know they want three dollars and fifty cents for the meal and you
know you can just make a donation and don't have to make
a donation but the fact is that you know all of us feel obligated to pay your own
way and by walking in and taking
a so-called handout doesn't we're not comfortable with that no one is and this
country so we want to give something but knowing that you have to give something
create such stress in our seniors lives the other thing too you can take it further
is money being tight look at the heat wave the seniors think I can afford to
keep my air conditioning on. It's going to cost me too much money then what am I
going to do I can't pay the time pay the electricity bill so I'm going to cut it
off and they did and they do they do and people that's the most dangerous thing
they can did absolutely and once once again we always discuss the issues about our
seniors Alex and talk about how important it is for them to stay hydrated during
this time close the drapes up during the daytime not go out if they can avoid it
because of the polluting pollutants that are out there but the wear cotton clothes
if they are going to go out had if they can sunglasses lotion if they can but I but
the most important thing is to stay hydrated and you know what the Olympics
recently they had this little thing about whether sports drinks really work or not
and being like I am I've always been athletic and I've always had something to
drink that is an athletic drink by my side but the study and it was from like
Harvard or somewhere said that if you work out and they said two hours
a day or more then you need to have
a sports drink and I left I said Who the heck works out two hours or more
a day not not me every My whole life I don't so here they're telling those don't
drink sports drinks if you're not working out more than two hours
a day go no nonsense sports drinks help hydrate our seniors that's the way it is if
you're
a diabetic you have to be careful if you have to watch your sodium you have to be
careful but if you're not doing this you're going to start getting symptoms like
lightheadedness dizziness weakness things like that and if you're not watching your
weight that gives you
a volume your blood pressure that tells you something about the volume you're going
to end up being in trouble and guess what you're going to be in stress and it's
going to turn around and cycle around and that's really going to end up getting you
know so these decisions that people are making arse. Seniors you know they're being
stressed out from the financial issues the food issues are
a lot of things that are background noise to them but all of
a sudden raise up their heads to really swallow them up and cause lots of problems
for them it really does what is your take on that My take is that I believe that I
create my own stress I create my own reality and it's all it's all self
created and it's and it's all created by me and we can talk about that we come back
in the break right let's take
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talking with Alex Urbino life leadership coach about self and about. The
main thing about self is the stress associated with that and how self plays
a role in our stress tell us about what your beliefs are yeah I believe that you
know when light life's going to happen is just always continuously happening it's
involved it's evolving it's showing up it's unfolding itself all the time and I
notice that which I focus on what I don't want I start to resist it and what I'm
focusing on I don't want I resist that and that's what causes the stress it's like
if I asked you to put your hand up and I put my hand up and I said I want you to
resist my hand and as you start pushing you start feeling the stress where you
feeling it at. Like in your elbows in your arm right so going up and exactly that's
because you're resisting my hand here and and all you've got and all you've got to
do is just so render not resisting me now let's do this again so I know you guys
can watch but my hands up your hands up and you're pushing against my hand and I'm
pushing into your head now once you let go go let go and then when you let go
there's no there's no more game playing I can't play with nobody so if you if you
focus on what you don't want you actually give it life you're giving it more energy
and more energy and more live you're causing it creating more of what you don't
want the minute you turn your back on it and don't focus on what you don't want and
start focusing on what you do want which is
a solution or an answer you're so powerful that you will start to figure out
a new solution to what you want that contradicts and combat's what you don't want I
don't that makes sense to you you have to start focusing on what the solution is
and stop focusing on what the problem is absolutely I think you always have to move
forward and define what your problem is if you don't define that problem you'll
never achieve
a solution if you can you can and what we see commonly is criticizing the problem
that's right but we never see a a route
a step by step manner to get to the solution that's right getting the feedback that
we need from all the people and self to be able to come up with ideas to move in
the right direction Well I think the reason for that is that we come up against
that don't feel it's our fault. It's that other person's fault they're the ones
causing me to stress it's their fault it has nothing to do with me which is
absolutely false because I'm the one that's allowing this to happen to me whatever
the this is which opens up what's now opens up the possibility that you have to
start taking responsibility for your life and you've got to start looking through
the filters of being responsible rather than being the victim absolutely because
when you're looking to the filters of being the victim then you're powerless and
then everything's happening to you rather then I'm the cause of things I am because
of who I'm being or who I'm not being is creating the result that's that's coming
up for me and you're resisting whatever it is that you are not in control over you
can't control or that you don't want is what's causing all the stress let's look at
it from
a different angle we have talked and I've been on that soapbox about the the meals
over at senior center but of senior center if
a senior is listening to this and they're saying no I was arm exactly I exactly
understand what's going on with those meals and the cost and I can't afford to pay
for it there this is an outside problem now influencing them how
a senior listening to this how would they then reflect back and say you know I am
not going to resist this I'm not going to allow it to affect me but what do they do
with the meal I mean they they have to eat something or we are we saying oh yeah
we'll find
a solution the solution is will go down to the nearest restaurant and we'll go
through the trash early what we can that's not
a solution to me I mean what how are we going to apply what we're talking about to
the situation example that we had before with
a senior facing something impacting them like not having
a meal and then what we're talking about moving ahead finding solutions and how
they're going to how they're going to find that solution how should. I look at it
that you know first of all they have to stop looking at through the filters of
being victimized like why is this happening to me what's what what's going on and
stop looking at it like it's something that happened to them rather than just
something to happen in life right some people are making some decisions there's
probably funding that's not available that someone made
a decision perience was so be neutral about the decision first of all so you're not
riled up and you reach any getting resistance to it and it's something that you're
you know pushing up against that's that's number one number two is step into now
a responsible version of OK now it's my responsibility to figure out how to feed
myself right so I step in and take to take responsibility so as
a responsible person how do I Now go figure out how to create
a meal for me and the people here at the center I believe that if it just takes one
person to get clear about it maybe has
a meeting at their house or in this in the rec room and you invite other people to
join you in your mission of let's take a responsible version and let's take
a stand for ourselves and figuring out how to get these meals replaced I believe
that the group of powerful people that are committed to creating
a result will start figuring out how to reinvent themselves to make sure that they
create
a meal for themselves and we invented ourselves Barbara when the hospital here told
us that they were closing our transitional care unit down six or seven years ago
and we came together formed
a group and from the city to people in the community everybody showed up to say
we're not going to allow this to happen that's right that's rock them off but you
know we organize that there are some people that just Alex don't have it in them
that's right and I say that's
a small percentage Yeah absolutely and before we go on the break I just want to
make this point it's way easier to be
a victim and to complain about it. Rather then to to look at yourself realize you
have the power to make a new choice and make
a difference and stand up and then create something see as human beings we don't
realize we're powerful enough to create whatever we want. And it's interesting
because at that time it was we felt good about what we were doing. Yes
regardless of the outcome we took
a stand. And that that was very important for all of us who were involved and there
were a lot of people involved and we need to take
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twenty cage to Yes We're talking with Alex Urbina who is
a life leadership coach but you know the the big things our seniors are concerned
about. Life liberty pursuit of happiness and retirement and being able to survive
these days this idea about victimization and you know I don't think any
one of the seniors that I know in this community will say that I am
a victim they they are they're not going to subconsciously take that role They're
always they're going to move their foot forward as they come through
a lot they're the war War two veterans or they lived through that whether they were
in the service or not the Korean War They built the country they've done all these
things I think the attitude is the strength of their personality where they're
coming from how they're going to move forward but they don't want to turn around
and say the victim in this case and they don't want to create themselves and look
at themselves as being victims Well if you're whining whining and complaining about
anything that's a victim perspective I'm not saying you're
a victim what I'm saying is that you're just looking through the filters of of
being in being in the victim perspective meaning you're powerless you're basically
making a statement every time you whine and complain about something you're making
a statement to the world to the universe to the people around you you that. Or not
powerful enough to change it or or influence it to look any different otherwise you
won't complain about it you won you wouldn't be talking about it you would be
trying to figure out how to make it look different how to create the result to
benefit you so every time you catch yourself complaining or whining or calling up
your friend to just you know run it or rot it's because your making that statement
that you're not powerful enough to make a difference in it so stop being
a victim and start looking for
a solution yet just choose just choose to not give it more energy stuff focus on
what you don't want even in the complaining you're still focusing and you're
looking and creating this whole game around what it is that you don't want which
also says that you're resisting it so it's surrender except turn around and now
start focusing on what the solution is so let's talk about getting
a disease right you get
a disease and I know they talk about there's different phases you go through right
what are some of the phases of depression depression denial anger denial so so
denial here's
a big one denial when you when you can move through denial quickly and get to
a place of acceptance is the moment that you flip
a switch and you start focusing on right now how do I start getting healthy. So the
denial part is you what it's you resisting what you don't want you're resisting
that you have diabetes you're resisting that you have cancer you're resisting that
you have something that you don't want the minute you can just finally go you know
what I write I have it great now what I did that and this is what are seeing this
do well because it's
a challenge yes the World War two Korean War moving forward these are the
challenges they faced and that's why we want people to keep things in perspective
and keep moving forward is right you know realize we're all human we're going to
feel that were victims and that's OK But to then just as you said Alex to say I
accept this I'm in this position based on the facts but now I'm going to move
forward that's right is make
a decision to move through your resistance to to whatever it is that you can't
control that you don't want move through it quickly don't don't sit around its
limit for weeks. Do back strokes in it for months for years get to
a point where you're like All right it is what it is so what now what if it's to be
it's up to me and start looking forward to creating
a solution for whatever it is that you're not your desires are with my patients I
find that you know I've made
a diagnosis and we're looking at what the problem is but I will tell you
a lot of relief comes in one eye who will say this is what we have to do this is
how we're going to we've analyzed the situation this is how we are going to move
forward on this educating them looking keeping it in perspective saying OK you need
to see this physician as
a referral or get this kind of treatment in the future take this kind of medication
expect these side effects but once I see them. Accepting it and I've
presented how they can move forward they do much better it's like
a logical it's inspiring that it's almost American because now with that positive
thinking they're not pushing themselves backwards they're not they're relieving the
. So I was of that depression and it just makes it easier to take that next step in
life and there's also some people that realize some people how. They get the
information that confirming they have
a disease some people actually become the disease rather then
I have the disease the disease doesn't have me does that make sense there's
a mistake there's
a distinct difference between I have it rather than it has me if you give your
power to it it's just going to take over you and I don't know I know you're in the
medical field and I know you've seen people that have
a powerful outlook and in their mind they get crystal clear about getting healthy
and they have turnarounds and then you scenes other people that. Now make it bigger
than it is and the disease just takes over them gets them into
a depression gets them to
a place where now they've surrendered to the disease and the direct to the disease
is now going to just fester and it's going to you're giving up more life and more
energy and more power not for me. Well but it's
a personality thing though with you Barbara your personality would not submit to
that and move backwards but part of her personality is also part of her outlook and
the way her out of the way you the way you view it the way you see it is part of
how it gives you that strength and that confidence to say that's interesting let's
talk about that when we come back from bright because that's
a very important element it really is I'm Barbara Cochran with my co-host Dr Gene
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The senior Dorio with my co-host Barbara Cochran on your hometown station in twelve
twenty caged Yes we're talking about stress and
a lot of stress that comes from disease and during our break bar Barber was talking
about how the stresses of World War two and living in England at the time were were
just really. Not an easy thing to overcome even now in life you know and I was just
a little girl here I was six and seven years old. And I remember it so vividly it's
unbelievable I'll never forget it and some of my experiences and I think that
probably had
a lot to do with. My outlook on life now and I'm sure it did because
there was always Hope Solo there was always something to look forward to but you
also said that how your mom and speired your survival Yes just was always there to
say you're OK he told Ed and you this is fine we're not going to we're not good
we're going to do OK but got upset when you were realize how close sometimes you
did come to dying that's right that's exactly right and I think my experiences as
a young child shaped my outlook on life because I've I've always been
a part positive person and when this this situation hit me with this non
hodgkins lymphoma I thought hey I'm going to beat this and it's not going to get
hold of me I'm going to beat it and I am beating Johnny one place it's left in my
body and after this next chemo it's going to be gone Congratulations again I know
it well but it's it stems from your attitude though and you know I just wonder what
your you know not of that that a war would allow you to have
a different attitude but as Alex said I see patients who their personalities take
hold and all of a sudden their their disease is
a part of them that they can't it's their shackled by it and it becomes
a piece of their personality and they become victimized because of it but I I
wonder how all of our backgrounds play
a role and then when it comes to something like your your health and then
a barrier in your health how then you approach it how then you look at it maybe not
as
a victim and I don't think you did at all or at all Barb but you're looking forward
and said OK I know I have this but I'm moving forward how do you know how do we all
differ and different ways and approaching now for our seniors Oh I can't get
a meal. Here at the Senior Center what am I going to do and some of them end up
going well I'm going to find
a way whereas others will go or give up even if you know it's interesting. The
other woman in the reception hall to hear today we were talking about it she's been
living with cancer for years and is still living with it and her outlook is
wonderful absolutely wonderful and I wholeheartedly agree with her you know.
What good does it do you to stress out and makes you worse you know you keep
looking forward because tomorrow will be
a better day and absolutely Well there's no doubt about it as far as I'm concerned
so what I was inspired from her was I saw in her face the surrendered
this totally surrender to I have it so what now what
let's move forward it's to me it's up to me I get to I get to live my life every
day and every day's
a blessing so it changed her out her outlook shift her perspective shift at some
point where she just realized I'm now not going to focus on the cancer I was
going to focus on living my life and if you saw if you saw the look in her eyes Oh
yes she was she was just it was about living her life absolutely talking about her
children her two sons I it's just it's amazing it's just amazing it was it was
quite
a revelation because I'm thinking wow wow. This woman is incredible
. And she had purpose yes she had
a reason she had to she had to move forward she had family she had people backing
her up she had community and
a reason to be doing things you know that's actually what she said it came out of
her own now she said I realized through this whole journey that the purpose of life
she said she flat out said out of her own mouth so once you get clear about what
your purpose is and and live
a purpose driven life you just get focused you get dialed in and you get you get
focused on what what's really important and what really matters to you and at
a certain disease or
a certain problem is just not what you want to put your energy or your time to and
it becomes less important and you start looking on what I what I'm committed to
rather than what I don't want you know though that when I first started medicine
three decades ago I mean there was a thought there really wasn't
a thought about how our shroud us facts. Us physically
that connection was not there I mean many doctors would say no it's in your head
it's super ten Toral they called it which is you know that's that's something
they're just thinking of and creating their own problems but we know now that she
stress can cause problems in your body stress can lead to illness
and my perfect example of that is that and that's kind of
a valving one with everything we're talking about but I had
a patient who his wife was a pianist and
a concert pianist but she developed Alzheimer's but for like five or six years at
the end of her life he was the total care giver he had that purpose to take care of
her and make sure she was OK and kept doing that and was the consummate example of
who he was
a human being is like and finally she started to deteriorate rapidly when
a hospice passed away and he was OK with that but his purpose was God and within
a year of that time about nine months later came in complaining of
a domino pain and I examined him we couldn't find the sores we didn't know what was
wrong we did scoping scans everything couldn't find it then we had operated on him
open them up and
a malignant melanoma that he had had twenty years before was now in his abdomen and
he passed away within
a week of that time period and so he had his he had purpose took care of his wife
held everything off that any kind of cancers but once he didn't have purpose
anymore and the depression of the loss of his wife set in them. That took him over
you know so much it was like a while me it plays
a role that's right so when they when I have experiences like that that was
probably about fifteen years ago I go Don't ever tell me even though I'm
a classic goal type of position here in this country that should dress or the
psychology of life doesn't play
a role in how we do physically don't ever tell me there's no connection because
there are definitely yes and once we figure out a realize that there is
a connection and know how to handle it that physically our lives will be better
that's right absolutely and we need to take another break unfortunately I'm Barbara
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From the Harvard. Trained Oreo in your hometown station I am twelve twenty
K.T.S. And we've been speaking Alex Urbina who is
a life leadership coach and our subject has been stress Alex can you give us an
hour listening audience some pointers on how to combat stress Well there's only one
key thing to combat stress and that's to surrender that which you cannot control
and surrender. You know that whatever it is that showed up in your life
it's there for a reason I believe that everything happens for
a reason so whatever it is it could be our greatest lesson so whatever's coming up
whether you didn't get your paycheck to pay the mortgage that month. Sit down and
look at that and instead of resisting it and being upset at it and complaining
about it just surrender to it first I'm not saying that you accepted and then don't
figure out
a solution all I'm saying is to relieve the stress just surrender it and the key is
surrender and people that are spiritual or a believe in
a higher power they know about this they know how to surrender they are concerned
read it to
a higher power or they surrender to the universe but they know how to just get off
it and once you get off it then that frees you up to be more in
a relaxed peaceful peaceful state and then from that point forward now start
figuring out
a solution from that state once you've surrendered the exile in the stress that
that could be cause from it just so said it it it should become
a lesson. Of life that you're that you've approached and you're looking at it's
a lesson that you can learn something from to move forward and then when you can
find solutions to that that problem that once you've surrendered learned that it's
a something you learn from and you're going to now move forward you learn how to do
this it's only
a learning lesson if you choose to see it like that correct because I don't have
don't I can have it will be always it's always and keep showing up as
a problem but see this is what we need to teach our children that when they have
a problem that they're facing the the stress the impact that's coming at them to
take that step back look at it that they're going to learn from this lesson
approach it with the idea that you're going to then be able to find solutions and
learn how to find those solutions once you do that in life life will become
a lot easier when you're sixty seventy eighty years old and you're able to you're
able to make sure that you don't that you're always learning something from it that
you're always gaining the information that you're always taking that next step
forward and not allowing yourself to get the press and then that stress to affect
you physically or mentally That's right it takes practice to provide
a lot of practice do it when you're young Yeah and do it when you're already. Doing
it and when you do it it's never too late but what it does take is it takes courage
and you have to dig down deep and you have to be willing to look at yourself in
deeply absolute and have
a reckoning with yourself and be willing to surrender all the goodies because we
also get goodies for being stressed out too or yeah that's a whole nother show
a simple yes some of those goodies is that we get to complain to people and get
sympathy and validation and pity and all that stuff so that's
a whole nother show but you know the first key is to surrender and just. Stop
resisting those things that you can't control or the solution or. Problems that you
have and you'll manage your stress
a lot that's right you certainly Well it's of anybody want to get
a hold of you and your group and especially bring those kids in the start learning
some of those lives lost so we're over at the action families on we have
a new teen center it's an enrichment in
a power center where we do experiential workshops and trainings to help build
self-esteem and leadership develop
a leadership qualities for the kids out here in the Santa Clarita Valley the action
family zone is at six six one four six seven two seven one four
and you can if you want to get ahold of me call me there and ask for me or leave me
a voicemail and I'll return any any message you send and where is the action so
we're X.
We're on the corner when the saw that canyon Plaza on the corner of Rooster and saw
that canyon road OK OK Always great information and you know it applies to our kids
but it also definitely applies to our seniors or seniors facing this major stress
from our home delivered meals and getting meals in this community we're going to
solve that problem we're going to work work forward through through the county and
the city and you know for through donors we're going to make sure that this does
not happen here those people like you to leading that group I believe that you guys
will overcome something I will bring up if you pick the yes we will. Well that's
that's really exciting Alex for being here again today once again Alex's phone
number six six one four six seven two seven one four that's four six seven two
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